*Snort* *snicker*
Ah, women... Anyway, here's the bottom line:
1) Kazaa is not a server, but a P2P network program.
2) You'll need a fast connection to use a network like this. Although 56K'ers still have a chance, I'd recommend a cable modem or ADSL.
3) Download Kazaa Lite, it saves you from a bundle of nefarious spyware. Available at www.kazaalite.com