You don't join, you're selected. What happens is you normally hang around saying crap and yelling abuse for a while.
Then we say something nasty about you.
You either then ignore us and continue being nasty, or you run crying to the nearest exit yelling for 'mother'.
If the former, one of us out of exasperation makes you a Serf and gets you to do nasty chores
After a while you get knighted.
And yes, there are ladies here. Real, soft, huggable ladies.
We do love our ladies so.
I'll settle for "alive".