You'll actually find that the rehabilitation of 'native' Taliban fighters into Afghani civilian life is starting to show itself as an uncomfortable truth when finding a solution to the situation. Afghanistan is not a black and white conflict, from what I can make out. The complex tribal and factional relationships at play are like shifting sands. Force of arms will not win alone. A resolution of the opium trade for instance, has to be part of the solution - burning the only income people have will push them straight into the arms of the Taliban. Some have suggested we should buy the crop and sell it on the legal (medicinal) opium market.
Foreign, non-Afghani fighters aside, many of the Afghani Taliban foot soldiers are illiterate pawns of the warlords - fighting because they are getting paid to fight rather than any ideological motivation. I suspect a more hearts and minds solution will be required there. Reconstruction (or more accurately 'construction', given the state of Afghanistan as a 'country') will play a major part in doing that.
As for dancing on the graves of dead Taliban? I'll leave that to the soldiers doing the killing, as it is their perogative to deal with the aftermath as they like. I won't lose any sleep when one of the Talibaddies buys the (poppy) farm, but I'll smile bemusedly at the armchair-bound zealots over here, who seem to have more bloodlust than many of the lads doing the killing (and dying).