GillFish,
I think you have the right idea. For me playing CM takes a while. Unless you do nothing other than eat, sleep and play CM, never going back is going to slow down the learning process. If you never encounter the same situation twice in a month, it is hard to learn from that experience.
The key is to understand why attempt number one failed and number two was better.
I also take back the occasional disastrous move. I am trying to learn how to win, not spend a bunch of time minimizing a catastrophe. Especially if the real life solution would be to break off the attack / run away.
I guess some folks are just better at this stuff than we are.