Don't let the reviews hold you back.... I have made the plunge and don't regret it. It is realtime, however i pause the game often to assess the situation and react. There is a level of micomanagement, however it is not bad at all, in fact it comes in handy.... this being it gives you a huge advantage over games like this is I can order 1 soldier instead of an entire squad to do a task.... for example I ordered 1 soldier to crawl up near a MG emplacement and use his grenades.... this is an awesome site to behold as I did not have to assault it and lose most of my men.
There is a lot going on, however the main thing you have to use is the pause button and tactics!!!..... if you forget those, you will get the floor wiped with you. To each his own, the demo is a pretty good feel of the game and I recommend downloading it and having a look.
I plan to develop some missions later own.....
PE